What Are You Doing New Year’s Eve?
I really like this song….it’s beautiful and melancholy. So many different people have recorded it, notably Ella Fitzgerald, Lena Horne and Harry Connick Jr. I think Frank Sinatra recorded it too, but I couldn’t find confirmation on that or a YouTube video for that matter. The version above is chill and jazzy…the vocalist I believe is a backup singer for KC and The Sunshine Band. I love it. If only they played it other times of the year besides the Christmas season. It’s really all about New Year’s and the possible loneliness of that time of year (I really hate that word ‘lonely.’)
New Year’s Eve can be up there with Valentine’s Day as far as that expectation of having someone to spend the holiday with. There’s that “New Year’s Eve kiss” or that New Year’s Eve party to dress up for. The funny thing is that I’ve never had a party to go to. I’ve spent most of my NYE’s at home. I’m always told how dangerous it is to go out that night because of the drunk drivers, etc. Usually, I just stay home and find some marathon of something on TV and have pizza and booze. Not very sexy, I know. If I were sexy, I would no longer be a virgin. LOL. It’s all in the personality afterall, where I tend to be lacking.
I remember being in high school and wanting to go out to those NYE parties and clubs. Now it’s just like, “Gee, is it smart to go somewhere like that by myself? Meh, I’ll stay home instead and drink in the safety of my living room where there’s no drunk drivers or date rape drugs. Oh, and there’s no rowdy crowds at my house either.”
I’ve already been asked at work what my New Year’s plans are. I’m getting closer to making up some fake imaginary boyfriend or posse of friends to throw them off my trail. The writing is on the wall to them that I’m some kind of nutcase that’s one step closer to adopting a bunch of cats…or I’m a closeted lesbian. Except I hate cats and would never tolerate one tearing up my leather couch. And if I were gay, I would have come out years ago. I shouldn’t care what people think, yet I want them to like me…how messed up is that?
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P.S. Apologies to anyone that’s a cat owner or cat lover.
lee replied:
I’ve been reading your blog for awhile now and thought I’d comment. I’m 26 (female) and never have had a long-term relationship. It seems that the holidays really bring on the pressure to have someone, especially that New Year’s kiss. I’ve never been dating anyone during any major holiday and every holiday season I find myself wondering if this will be my last one single, except every year seems to end up the same! I got invited to a party this year but ended up staying home and renting movies as usual. Funny thing is, even if I was with someone around the holidays, I can’t see myself doing all those traditional holiday couple activities. I hate acting all sappy with guys lol.
I’m so used to things the way they are that sometimes I tend to forget how odd I feel for not having experienced being with someone long term on a day to day basis. Even when I’ve dated people for a month or longer I only saw them a couple times a week. I have no clue what it feels like to share my life. I guess they say now of that will matter when we do find someone right?
January 2, 2010 at 9:47 pm. Permalink.
neverhadaboyfriend replied:
Howdy! Doing couple stuff on holidays and even any day just seems so alien when you are used to nothing but your own space.
The funny thing is most everyone I talked to stayed in for New Year’s Eve because of drunk drivers and all the police out on the roadways. I think we’re in the majority in that regard.
January 2, 2010 at 10:43 pm. Permalink.
lee replied:
It’s funny how living with another person, being with them constantly seems so alien yet it is such a common thing!
January 4, 2010 at 3:35 am. Permalink.
Ashley replied:
so know how you feel. I was so anxiety ridden over what my new years plans where going to be this year, I had none. Single once again. I ended up hanging out with my sisters friends but i still felt out of place and alone. Somehow this New Years felt worse. A new decade, and still single. I just wish i could see a few years in the future to see yes it will be ok you will find someone, or even if the answer was no, you’ll still be alone at least i could stop wondering….Internet hug to all the lonely people out there
January 7, 2010 at 4:06 am. Permalink.
HappyIsolation replied:
I can only distinctly remember two New Year’s Eves in my life: when I first noticed that time would never stand still in the change from ’93 to ’94 (yes, I was a really slow kid, eh) & last year, when I drank with some cool flight students from Saudi Arabia. (HA! I had to laugh, though that might be ever so slightly racist.) Overall, I can’t recall anything special about any of the dates in between or even this past New Year…really, I wasn’t drunk, but I can’t remember it. I was probably reading & just forgot about it, LOL. I do hate how people assume you will have plans, but I think most of the people around me have given up on me having any…ever. LOL
January 7, 2010 at 12:15 pm. Permalink.
Nel replied:
Another decade, another year and another country but still everything is the same. Stayed indoors for New Years and just drunk and ate junk. People keep on telling me that this is the year you’ll meet someone but I doubt it!
I agree can’t about doing couple stuff now.
January 9, 2010 at 4:22 am. Permalink.
boyfriendless replied:
hi,I just dscovered your blog.
LOL
I’m afraid my blog’s name is just the same as yours.
Come check it out sometime.
http://boyfriendless.wordpress.com/
January 17, 2010 at 4:58 pm. Permalink.
MuffinMan replied:
I am 28, a guy, and I can relate to every entry in that blog.
March 24, 2010 at 6:52 pm. Permalink.